Other Opinion, “O’Neill’s Approach: A Sense of The Common Man”

I remember Bill O’Neill. He was as people described him, an honest, ordinary man, a bartender from East Hampton who reminded me of my father — an auto mechanic who ran a gas station for many years.

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Effective Treatment Programs for Abusive Men

Twenty-five years ago, I was a Legal aid attorney doing divorce work with women who had been abused. Daily, I’d listen to stories of beatings, verbal abuse and emotional coercion and do my best to get these women away from these men.

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Avenging Niece’s Murder Leads Lawyer to Start Workshops

In the early morning hours of October 18, 1999, I received a phone call from my sister. “It’s Maggie,” she said, her voice trembling. “She’s been shot. She’s dead.”

I couldn’t believe it. Maggie, my brother’s 19-year-old daughter, had been murdered at school by her ex-boyfriend who then killed himself. It was another senseless act of violence but this time, Maggie — our Maggie — was dead.

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The Changes that Maggie’s Killing Brought

It has been more than a year now since my niece, Maggie, died and still it is hard for me to tell her story.

On October 18, 1999, Maggie, a 19-year-old college sophomore at Kalamazoo College in Michigan, was shot and killed by her ex-boyfriend, a 20-year-old junior who then killed himself.

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Finding Answers to Violence and A Way to Remember Maggie

In the early morning hours of Sunday, October 17, I received a phone call at my home in Connecticut that my niece, Maggie, a nineteen year old college sophomore, was shot three times and killed in a college dormitory room in Kalamazoo, Michigan, by her ex-boyfriend.

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